So Attached To Mom!!!!

[ethan's mom]

MY son is 4 months old and I stay home with him. I am getting ready to go back to grad school and will be leaving him with my mother. Every time we leave him with her he screams the whole time and he even screams sometimes when she has him and I am still here. I think he is associating her with me leaving. I know it is natural since I am with him 24/7, but I don't know if there is anything I can do to help this. I don't want to be stressed when I leave him or even more make my mom have to deal with him screamig constantly. He usually will scream until he wears himself out and falls asleep for her. I know time will help and he will just have to get used to it, but does anyone have any suggestions on how I can transition him better. I am not sure what to do. We have been trying to leave him with her little bits at time, but it doesn't seem to be working. He even does this to my husband sometimes. Will he grow out of this soon? ANY SUGGESTIONS?????

[marsoud1]

Hi Ethan's mom!
My baby girl is 19 weeks old and like yours doesn't stay with my mom!
We had to leave her with my mom 2 times and she screamed to death, fussed and cried both times,so my mom had to call us to go back home!!! I think colicky babies are more attached to their moms than NORMAl babies, since we had or have to hold them most of the time. I can say that my baby knows me very well, sometimes when I take a nap and she is with my husband, after I wake up she looks at me like she hasn't seen me for a long time! She smiles at me and sings for me.
I know it's hard but I think they should get used to it slowly, just start leaving your baby with your mom during her/his happy hours!It will improve.(hopefully)
It's hard to be a mom but I love it, although I haven't slept the last 3 nights, since she was waking up and screaming every hour.
Hang in there and keep posting,
Maryam

[ethan's mom]

Ethan really isn't colicky anymore, but gets a lot of attention at home. I don't hold him all of the time, but play with him a lot. He definetly is a demanding baby. I have noticed that he does better in the mornings when he is the happiest and the worst at night. I know it will probably take time and I am just going to have to let him cry and get used to it, but it is so hard as a mom. The worst thing is that my first 2 weeks of classes my mom will be out of town and I am going to have to leave him with someone he really doesn't know the first time I ever have to leave him for that long and then the 2nd weeks my mother in law is coming in town to watch him and he doesn't know her that well either. I am stressing about that a little. I hate it for him and the person watching him. It's not like they can call me and I can just leave class ya know. Not everything about being a mom is fun, but I know we will get through it.

[j'smommy]

Jackson does better if there are lots of things to distract him, like going outside, swimming, going on the porch swing, on a walk. My only suggestion is to try to think of activities that your son and caregiver can do everyday. My nephew would cry and cry when I babysat him....I just learned to take him on walks and stuff.

If you think your son may be a high needs baby, I would suggest "The fussy baby book" by Dr Sears. Its nice to know that there are other high maintenance babies out there and they turned out OK. My baby is 7 months and he still has meltdowns almost everynight, but we have learned to just accept it and distract him.

Good Luck!!